The Art of Letting Go

Have you ever been so smitten with someone that right from under your nose you let an amazing catch get away because you couldn’t lift your head up long enough to see that the grass really was greener somewhere else? Are you that person that is super hung up on your ex and convinced that if you just coast along, your ex will come to his senses and come back to you with arms wide open saying something like “I've made a huge mistake and I realized you are the one for me, I’ll never leave you again... ever!" Well if you are, then ask yourself this question: Why would you want to be with someone who has left you once or twice already? People who are deserving of your love are the ones who stand by you even when the time gets tough.

I must admit, that I completely dropped the ball a few times on love. I have let people who loved me get away because I couldn't move on and was determined to get back the affection of whoever it was that I had my sights set on. Somewhere along the way, destiny can be so cruel to take away the person that makes each day of our life a fairy tale. Then our world would start to turn upside down and we just find ourselves empty and broken.

When it comes to love, each of us can have our different stories to tell. Nevertheless, all of us can be on the same predicament, which is finding the strength to let go of the feelings that seem to haunt us. Being able to move on is not something that happens over night. The process of removing hurtful feelings from your life is not easy and not something to be taken lightly. So when the time comes that you decide that you've had enough and want to take a more positive path in your life, here are a few things that you can consider.

Dwell in the past. Yes, I've said it, dwell in the past but not too much, just let yourself reminisce each moment you've spent together. Ironic isn't it? But sometimes it's only through allowing ourselves to find painful joy in the broken pieces of our past that we can start to feel tired and willingly wave our hands and give up. When that happens, we can start the next step towards totally letting go. After all, suppressing our feelings and holding back the tears are bad to our nervous system. So its okay to cry. There are stages of grief, that people sometimes have to go through in order to move on. Don't be ashamed to take your time and allow yourself to feel the pain.

Realize your worth. Sometimes, when we fall in love, we tend to neglect ourselves, our personal goals and plans because every move we make seems to consider our loved one. Now is the right time to contemplate on what you really want to do with your life, what you've always been wanting to attain. It is through loving ourselves that we can start to move out from the doomed world that covered us. It is through loving ourselves that we can start to find the light again and start a new life.

Commit to accept. It is pointless to say you have given up and after a few days you start to dwell in the past again. You have to decide whether you want your life to be miserable forever by living with the past or start again and find joy. Once you've decided, you need to commit to yourself that you will accept your fate. Total acceptance will allow your state of mind to focus on moving on instead of holding on. This will help you learn to appreciate the brighter side of things and eventually lead you to a new dimension in life.

When your relationship takes a nose dive, you won't believe the statement that you are better off. But as time passes by, you'll realize that you are. If you can firmly believe that everything happens for a reason, you will soon realize the power of those words. After the dust has settled a bit, the reasons that you are better off will begin to fly through your head. Giving yourself time to get past the demise of your love will ultimately be all that it takes. There are no magic bullets to make the pain go away in a snap of a finger. It is something that we must work through in order to get to the better end. Time will teach you the great art of letting go.

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