Fear Of Commitment

Are you reluctant to tie the knot or even avoid conversations about having serious relationship? If that's the case, then its time for you to figure out why you are afraid of commitment and perhaps know what you can do about it.

Some people can't really hold on to or have a steady relationship. When they find someone they like, they will fall head over heals with that person. They will shower them with love and affection, make them feel their world will come to an end if they spurn them or misunderstand them. But then when they enter into a relationship, they always feel trapped and suffocated, and get the awful feeling in the pit of their stomach then everything will take a different turn. Anyone who has fear of commitment starts relationships with seemingly good love partners only to suddenly break them off just as they are becoming serious.

What causes this fear? It can actually be several. For some, they deny to consider the value of promises in relationships probably because they witnessed a separation of their parents or any of their dear ones. Others just don't want to commit because they are afraid to fail to keep promises. It could also be that they have seen too many relationships breaking up among their friends to be able to believe in commitment. Or maybe because they simply think that their life will be like a dull dish with just one flavor. 

Although a fear of commitment can be deeply rooted in past experiences, it is possible to overcome this fear, especially if you truly love someone. The first step to get over a fear of commitment is to build trust with your partner. Trust is a must for each and every relationship to evolve and last a long time. Secondly, change the way you look at relationships. Assess your situation realistically and then ask yourself another question: What if you never take a chance on love because of your fears, won’t you end up alone anyway? Lastly, don't be a coward, take the risk. There is no guarantee that your choice will pan out, neither will it go the way you prefer; but there is also no necessity that you must accept your fate. You can still decide. You are stuck only if you choose to be. 

Commitment doesn't take away your options in life or set yourself up for failure. Realize that committing to someone does not have to mean a loss of your freedom or your identity, and understand that not all relationships are doomed to fail. Instead, it's a chance to grow with and learn from another person. Not everyone in life will hurt you, and not everyone in life is going to cheat and leave you.

I firmly believe that committing to something, or someone, is one of life's most empowering and liberating experience.