Mending A Broken Heart

How long will it be before you can get through your daily routine without feeling the wave of pain sweep over you, without procrastinating on what could  have gone wrong? Being dumped is something, which has happened to everyone at some time in their life. I certainly have, so I know that it is just about the worst feeling in the world.

Having one's heart broken not only affects us during the break up but even for a long time after the relationship has ended. Especially when everyone on the planet seems to be happy and in love, their togetherness seems to be mocking our pain. When you have gotten used to having someone in your life, whether things were good or bad, it can feel like hell facing your life without them. A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can come as a nagging feeling or as a wave of emotion that threatens to overwhelm and drown you in the grief of a memory. This torment makes you long for a time when life was easier. It leaves you with a dull, heavy weight in your chest that often, without warning, explodes into excruciating pain.

Now, the question is - how do we get over the pain? 

Acceptance. I believe that the first and most important step to move on is to accept that your ex has gone and will never be coming back. You cannot be with him/ her again and be on the phone like you used to. If you want to get back on track with your life, first you've got to acknowledge that this part of your life are now in your past. Acceptance comes but it takes time.

Grieve. Face your grief and allow yourself to cry not for the that person who left, but for the relationship that you lost and the dreams that you wont be able to share with that person anymore. Don't be reluctant to cry if you're inclined and you feel the need to do so. Do not shy away from expressing your genuine feelings. It's okay to cry out and isolate yourself from the world for a few days, just don't make it a habit. After all, crying is a good way of relieving pressure.

Look around. Once the pain has subsided, it may be the time to meet new people. Life isn't a short but a long novel. One chapter of that novel has closed so another will definitely begin, just keep turning the pages and don't keep brooding on a single chapter. Keep an open mind and don't reject possibilities before giving them a chance to develop. Take a chance, eventually you will meet someone again and fall in love.

You deserve to be happy and not spend all your time feeling sad, surrounded by memories of the past. Move on, take everything as a challenge and face your life positively, eventually you'll emerge a stronger person than you were.

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Afraid To Fall In Love or Afraid Of Being Rejected?

Falling in love is inevitable, it's one of the most magical things that can happen to a person. It makes us feel invincible. It makes us feel like we're not alone in the universe. But why is it that some people are afraid of falling in love?

I suppose what most people are most afraid of is unrequited love. It's one of the hardest things anybody has to go through. Some are also afraid that they might choose the wrong person. Or that their loved one will hurt them at some point in their lives. Most people wouldn't want to put themselves at the mercy of another, and they feel like it's safer to never let themselves fall in love in the first place. Anyone who's been burned in a relationship will be a little more cautious every time.

Rejection is also one of negative aspects of life that we all fear to ever have to go through. Having to deal with rejection is certainly so hard for someone to move on from. It's a part of life that we will encounter along the journey of life either directly or indirectly. Something that exists, needs to be dealt with, and not ignored. 

The negative aspects of life are what shape our character and make us wise. How we deal with these negatives is very vital. If we will choose to stay on the negative and not use them as stepping stones, then I am afraid we are doomed to be alone forever. 

When someone does not want you, never force yourself on him or her. Respect their decision and move on. Don’t let it harbor in your heart in anger or try to get to hurt them or keep fighting to have them. Hey, sometimes some things are just never meant to be and at times it’s a blessing in disguise. Falling in love is always worth a try.

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