First Love - Does It Ever Die?

Do you still remember the first person who made your knees go weak and your heart flutter? Did your palms sweat at the very sight of that person? Did that person leave you speechless, breathless and starry-eyed? For sure, that person was your first love.

It's been a while, but up until now, I'm still puzzled. Does first love ever die? Can it really fade away, after having given your heart to that very first person? Isn’t there always some sort of connection that comes into being after two people, for whatever length of time, declare mutual love and affection to each other for the very first time? Do the feelings really vanish over time? If it does, then was it really love? Well, I can't really say for certain.

But I guess, it depends on how maturely you value the love during your first relationship. No matter how early or late you felt to be in love for the first time, nobody can really tell if first love ever dies except your own self. And one thing I am certain of is that, you never forget that first love. It is undeniable that first love will always be something special to anyone. I mean, true, you never really forget your first love. Or, for that matter, anyone who's ever meant anything to you and touched your life in some way.

There is something in the relationship with the first love that makes it unforgettable. The very first time of feeling the way how is it to be in love makes it special that most of us can't let go of. However, as time passes by, the emotion we feel for the person we first loved will eventually fade out especially when the situation calls for it. If it's not reciprocated, or if the relationship isn't nurtured, the feelings may die. Our only way to survive and continue leading our own lives is to silence the pain that has shattered our expectations. This means that we must detach ourselves from flashing back the memories we have shared with that person.

It's true that first loves are always the hardest to move on from. Moreover, what would never really die are the memories left behind. But oftentimes, when the heart is healed, we tend to learn from it, or use it as a smart warning to be more careful the next time we fall in love. We fondly remember them and rejoice in the fact that we have those special memories which helped mold us into the person we are today with our true love.

No one will ever successfully arrive at one universally acceptable answer if first love, or love in general, really dies or not. To simply put a short denotation to a word and a state of mind as powerful as love, is to mock the very concept. Love means so many different things to so many different people. But to sum everything up, first love may never really die, but there's one thing I know for sure, true love can bury it alive!

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She's Just Not That Into You

She's just not that into you! Sure, these words sound a little too harsh, but these can save some men from a lifetime of heartache. There are times when no matter how hard you try, you just can't seem to get anywhere with a girl. The fact is that the hours you spent trying to interpret what she really meant, could be used to get ahead in your career, do some other things or better find someone who is truly deserving of you. Your soulmate could be waiting right around the next corner, but you'll never find her if you don't get out there and start searching.

It can sometimes be difficult to tell if a girl is really into you or if she just is just being friendly or what. But I suppose, if she's really into you, there will be some obvious signs that you can watch for to know for sure. Signs of disinterest are sometimes blatant and sometimes vague. That being said, I've gone and assembled my own list of ways to tell if she is in fact just not that into you.

• It takes you numerous tries before she decides to go out with you. When a woman likes you, the response is usually a "yes" on your first attempt. If you have to badger her to go out with you, that's a bad first sign.
• She seems hesitant to give you her number, when she does, she ignores your text messages and phone calls. It is typical for someone who's not interested in you to say, "I didn't hear the phone ring" or "I was too busy". If a girl likes you, she will always make time for you, every damn day.
• She makes it painfully obvious that she is typically into guys that are the exact opposite of you. She talks about other guys in front of you. No, she's not trying to make you jealous, this only means that you are just like one of her girlfriends whom she share her thoughts with. Take this as a hint on her part that you, for whatever reason, are not her perfect man.
• If she hugs you, she gives you the one-armed hug. If she's interested, her body language is warm and welcoming, she will hug you tight with her two arms and will stand in close proximity to you, wanting to be near.
• She tries repeatedly to draw other people into the conversation in order to execute her escape. She finds every way to make you her last priority. When you go out on a date and another guy walks by, she stares at him until he's out of sight.  If she's interested in you, she would give you her full attention.
• She doesn't laugh at any of your jokes. When a girl is interested in you, she'll even laugh at your dull one-liners, no matter how stupid and corny your jokes are, she’ll definitely laugh.
• She ignores you on Facebook. If you continuously send her friend request and you get no response, there is no Facebook malfunction!! She's just ignoring you! In fact she might probably be online when you sent your request and might be talking to herself saying, "not this jackass again!".
• She hasn’t introduced you to her circle of friends or family. Um, need I say more on this one?

If you're digging a woman who’s behaving these ways, the whole pursuit is probably not worth your time. Yes, women like to be chased, but only by men they’re actually interested in. So do yourself a favor and don't prolong the inevitable. She's not that into you!

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Love On The Rebound

So your previous relationship didn’t quite work out. And now you have been dumped. Along comes someone who seems to understand what you are going through. And you feel as if you can connect with that person who is spending time with you. At this point, you would probably think that you have found another person you can entrust your feelings with. Being so vulnerable, you would then plunge into another relationship without allowing yourself to heal first from your previous one and making peace with what has happened.

Hold your horses my friend, there's no need to rush! When your heart is still reeling from a painful breakup, the best thing for you to do is to wait. And even if you feel like wanting to start a new relationship, give yourself some more time before you do. Remember that you can never be open to a new love when a part of you is still yearning for one that has been lost. The first step to keeping yourself from doing something you’ll regret is to take an honest look at what you’re feeling and understand how those feelings can lead you to places you’d rather not go.

It’s a fact that beginning a new liaison while you are still in love with your ex radically reduces the chance that you will find true love. When you're in a rebound relationship, you spend a significant amount of time focusing on your previous one. Since you haven't taken the time that your mind and your heart needs to work through the painful emotions you're still feeling, you tend to keep contemplating on what could have been and what went wrong. All the time you focus on your old relationship, you are draining the potential of your current one to be successful.

While there occasionally are rebound relationships that last and develop into long-term, loving relationships, most of them don't really last a long time. I learned long ago to be cautious in whom I would trust. At a young age, I discovered that people are not always sincere. Some people only seek rebound relationships because they want someone to take care of them, make them feel worthy and prevent them from feeling lonely.

Needless to say, what we all yearn for and desire is to be loved, however, if you are in a relationship only to distract yourself from the pain of a broken heart, then you are using another person. More than likely when that person has served their purpose you will move on, leaving them to pick up the pieces. Being sad and lonely doesn't give anyone the right to use someone's heart and then throw it away.

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Premarital Sex - Pass or Play?

Sex is a very personal, sensitive and subjective topic to tackle. Speaking for myself,  I'm not condoning premarital sex nor am I crucifying it. This is a tough issue for me to take one particular side on. Anyone can say it's against his/her values or religion, but that doesn't make it wrong for everyone. It is not mere sexual impulse, as some have been saying, but a matter of social significance. With so many beliefs among people there is no right or wrong way to discuss the pros and cons of premarital sex. 

The blunt truth is that premarital sex and whether to have it or not is a truly personal opinion that only an individual can make for himself. A person should be smart enough to decide for himself what path he would want to take. That being said, it is still clearly a personal preference and no one should be forced into premarital sex unless is absolutely certain, willing to face its consequences, and will have no regrets down the road.

We are human beings, most of us have an innate need and desire to connect with another human and drive to procreate to survive as species. We cannot ignore its presence more than we can ignore other ordinary human drives. Indeed, some people do have the will power to abstain. However, just because it can be done doesn't really mean that everyone has equal amounts of will power regarding premarital sex. We know we should but most of us have lapses even as we have the best intentions.

Furthermore, sexual compatibility, without a doubt, is part of a successful marriage. This compatibility is structurally needed in any romantic relationship and especially in marriages, but it is important to not use sex as the determining factor for whether or not the relationship will survive. Remember to work on all areas of the relationship and not just the physical aspect. Sex is the icing on the cake. Being married to someone who you are truly in love with is the cake. 

While I respect those who choose to practice abstinence because of personal beliefs, I don't see anything immoral, with people engaging in premarital sex, but it does need to be said that premarital sex is indeed cheapened if it is not a part of a meaningful relationship. Moreover, we must remember that casual sex and premarital sex are two different things, it can never be called premarital sex if you don't intend to marry your partner. And without heartfelt sincerity, sex before or after the marriage, will not sustain a relationship.

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Fear Of Commitment

Are you reluctant to tie the knot or even avoid conversations about having serious relationship? If that's the case, then its time for you to figure out why you are afraid of commitment and perhaps know what you can do about it.

Some people can't really hold on to or have a steady relationship. When they find someone they like, they will fall head over heals with that person. They will shower them with love and affection, make them feel their world will come to an end if they spurn them or misunderstand them. But then when they enter into a relationship, they always feel trapped and suffocated, and get the awful feeling in the pit of their stomach then everything will take a different turn. Anyone who has fear of commitment starts relationships with seemingly good love partners only to suddenly break them off just as they are becoming serious.

What causes this fear? It can actually be several. For some, they deny to consider the value of promises in relationships probably because they witnessed a separation of their parents or any of their dear ones. Others just don't want to commit because they are afraid to fail to keep promises. It could also be that they have seen too many relationships breaking up among their friends to be able to believe in commitment. Or maybe because they simply think that their life will be like a dull dish with just one flavor. 

Although a fear of commitment can be deeply rooted in past experiences, it is possible to overcome this fear, especially if you truly love someone. The first step to get over a fear of commitment is to build trust with your partner. Trust is a must for each and every relationship to evolve and last a long time. Secondly, change the way you look at relationships. Assess your situation realistically and then ask yourself another question: What if you never take a chance on love because of your fears, won’t you end up alone anyway? Lastly, don't be a coward, take the risk. There is no guarantee that your choice will pan out, neither will it go the way you prefer; but there is also no necessity that you must accept your fate. You can still decide. You are stuck only if you choose to be. 

Commitment doesn't take away your options in life or set yourself up for failure. Realize that committing to someone does not have to mean a loss of your freedom or your identity, and understand that not all relationships are doomed to fail. Instead, it's a chance to grow with and learn from another person. Not everyone in life will hurt you, and not everyone in life is going to cheat and leave you.

I firmly believe that committing to something, or someone, is one of life's most empowering and liberating experience.

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Mending A Broken Heart

How long will it be before you can get through your daily routine without feeling the wave of pain sweep over you, without procrastinating on what could  have gone wrong? Being dumped is something, which has happened to everyone at some time in their life. I certainly have, so I know that it is just about the worst feeling in the world.

Having one's heart broken not only affects us during the break up but even for a long time after the relationship has ended. Especially when everyone on the planet seems to be happy and in love, their togetherness seems to be mocking our pain. When you have gotten used to having someone in your life, whether things were good or bad, it can feel like hell facing your life without them. A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can come as a nagging feeling or as a wave of emotion that threatens to overwhelm and drown you in the grief of a memory. This torment makes you long for a time when life was easier. It leaves you with a dull, heavy weight in your chest that often, without warning, explodes into excruciating pain.

Now, the question is - how do we get over the pain? 

Acceptance. I believe that the first and most important step to move on is to accept that your ex has gone and will never be coming back. You cannot be with him/ her again and be on the phone like you used to. If you want to get back on track with your life, first you've got to acknowledge that this part of your life are now in your past. Acceptance comes but it takes time.

Grieve. Face your grief and allow yourself to cry not for the that person who left, but for the relationship that you lost and the dreams that you wont be able to share with that person anymore. Don't be reluctant to cry if you're inclined and you feel the need to do so. Do not shy away from expressing your genuine feelings. It's okay to cry out and isolate yourself from the world for a few days, just don't make it a habit. After all, crying is a good way of relieving pressure.

Look around. Once the pain has subsided, it may be the time to meet new people. Life isn't a short but a long novel. One chapter of that novel has closed so another will definitely begin, just keep turning the pages and don't keep brooding on a single chapter. Keep an open mind and don't reject possibilities before giving them a chance to develop. Take a chance, eventually you will meet someone again and fall in love.

You deserve to be happy and not spend all your time feeling sad, surrounded by memories of the past. Move on, take everything as a challenge and face your life positively, eventually you'll emerge a stronger person than you were.

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Afraid To Fall In Love or Afraid Of Being Rejected?

Falling in love is inevitable, it's one of the most magical things that can happen to a person. It makes us feel invincible. It makes us feel like we're not alone in the universe. But why is it that some people are afraid of falling in love?

I suppose what most people are most afraid of is unrequited love. It's one of the hardest things anybody has to go through. Some are also afraid that they might choose the wrong person. Or that their loved one will hurt them at some point in their lives. Most people wouldn't want to put themselves at the mercy of another, and they feel like it's safer to never let themselves fall in love in the first place. Anyone who's been burned in a relationship will be a little more cautious every time.

Rejection is also one of negative aspects of life that we all fear to ever have to go through. Having to deal with rejection is certainly so hard for someone to move on from. It's a part of life that we will encounter along the journey of life either directly or indirectly. Something that exists, needs to be dealt with, and not ignored. 

The negative aspects of life are what shape our character and make us wise. How we deal with these negatives is very vital. If we will choose to stay on the negative and not use them as stepping stones, then I am afraid we are doomed to be alone forever. 

When someone does not want you, never force yourself on him or her. Respect their decision and move on. Don’t let it harbor in your heart in anger or try to get to hurt them or keep fighting to have them. Hey, sometimes some things are just never meant to be and at times it’s a blessing in disguise. Falling in love is always worth a try.

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How To Lose Weight Fast

Healthy weight loss can be achieved fairly quickly but be reminded that you need to be consistent and very patient. Keeping your motivation up is one of the most difficult aspects of dieting. There will be days when healthy eating goes out the window, and there will be weeks where you may not lose any weight – or put a little back on. Here are some tips to lose weight effectively.

• Be realistic. Set goals that are realistic. Aim for a healthy body and not for a certain number of pounds that you want to lose.
• Drink plenty of water. Adequate water is essential for our body. Drink a glass of water before your meal as it helps your digestion. Not only that, it also gives a sensation of fullness in your stomach that will keep you from overeating.
• Eat more fiber. Fiber keeps the right amount of water in your intestines, making your digestive system work more efficiently and helping to keep you regular.
• Eat mini-meals but more frequent. This way, your body starts to increase its metabolism so that calories are burned faster.
• Use smaller plates when you eat. When eating at home, it’s better to get rid of the huge plates you usually use, this way you will not be tempted to eat large portions.
• Exercise. To lose weight effectively, you either need to decrease the number of calories you intake or increase the amount of calorie that you burn. Start by walking more and being more physically active. Practice a sport you enjoy or you always wanted to try.

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How To Manually Remove a Virus From Your Computer

Its extremely important to have a virus protection installed on your computer. However, there are times when a full virus scan is unnecessary and time-consuming. The following steps will help you remove virus manually from your computer and removable disk.

1. Back Up. Before all else, back up all your important files to an external drive or CD's before removing a virus.

2. Restart. Restart your computer in Safe Mode.

3. Command Prompt. To manually remove a virus, whether from your computer's internal hard drive or any external or removable disk, you will need to use the command prompt. Go to Start> Programs> Accessories> Command Prompt

4. Find the Virus File.  Locate the offending virus file. Somehow you knew this virus got through your firewall. Maybe you accidentally downloaded it with an email, so you'll find it in the email attachments folder. Perhaps you saw the name in a virus report then came across it while searching for another file. Often with the Windows OS, a virus will show up in the system folder or temporary folder. In any case, open the folder with the virus.(e.g. virus.exe) 

5. Remove Permissions. In the command prompt, take a little antivirus action and remove its permissions with the following command: attrib -r -a -s -h virus.exe

6. Remove File. Now that you have weakened the virus, flush it out of your computer system. In the command prompt, type: del virus.exe to remove a virus from a computer.

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How To Speed Up Your Computer

If your computer is a bit sluggish or boots up slower than usual, consider doing a few basic maintenance steps.

1. Change you StartUp settings. There are some applications that are set to start each time you load Windows and that takes time for your computer to load. In order to make your operating system load up faster, you can control which programs are loaded up during Windows startup. 

(a)    Hit Start.

(b)    Hit Run.

(c)    Type msconfig on the text box provided.

(d)    Hit Enter

(e)    Inside the “System Configuration Utility” dialogue box, hit the tab for Startup.

(f)    Uncheck the boxes next to the items you do not want to load when Windows boots up.

(g)    Hit the OK button when you are done un-ticking those items and a new dialogue box will populate your screen, asking you to either Restart or Exit Without Restart. Hit Restart and notice that when windows loads back up, that the startup time is clearly faster than usual.

2. Delete Temporary Files from time to time. These files can slow your computer down.

(a)    Hit Start.

(b)    Highlight Programs.

(c)    Highlight Accessories.

(d)    Highlight System Tools.

(e)    Right click on Disk Cleanup.

(f)    On the Select Drive dialogue box, select the drive letter you want to cleanup and hit the OK button to start the calculations of how much space you can free up in this specific drive.

(g)    When the tool finishes its task of calculating the space, a new window will pop out that lists files you can delete. Check all boxes found under Files to delete, press OK then Yes to proceed with the cleanup. Patiently wait for the tool to finish its task.

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How To Access Your PC If You Forget Your Windows Password

These are the steps that you can take to access your system and files again if you ever lock out your own computer:

• Reset the password with a Windows installer.
1. Taking your Windows CD-ROM and inserting it into the computer will allow you do reboot the computer and reset the password.

2. Go to the Setup menu and choose the Repair option by clicking R This will repair your hard disks and copy your files. When it is done, your PC will reboot automatically. 

3. Press Shift + F10 to open a command prompt. From here, you can access the Control Panel by entering control.exe (Windows 2000) or nusrmgr.cpl (Windows XP). You will now be able to reset your password. 

• Create a second Computer Administrator account. Creating a second administrative account allows you to have the same level of access to the computer and its files apart from your primary administrative profile. Using this other account you can change the password of your other account so you can access it again. 
1.Go to Control Panel then User Accounts

2. Create a new account and name it

3. Pick account type as Computer Administrator

4. Assign a password that you wouldn't forget  (e.g. anniversary date) 

5. Create a password hint (e.g. your first pet's name)

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How To Automatically Defragment Files - Windows XP

Defragmenting your hard drive is vital to keep your computer system running smoothly.

• Click on the Start> All Programs> Accessories> Notepad from the drop down list.
• Paste the code below in the newly created Notepad document.

context_defrag.INF

[version]

signature = "$CHICAGO$"

[DefaultInstall]

AddReg = AddMe

[AddMe]

HKCR,"Drive\Shell\Defrag\command

",,,"DEFRAG.EXE %1"

• Go to File menu of the Notepad and select Save as
• Choose a program from the  drop- down menu where you prefer to save the defragmentation file. Save the file as context_defrag.inf then click on the Save as Type drop down list and select All Files. Hit the Save button then exit the Notepad document before you continue.
• Select My Computer from the Start Menu or the desktop. If your computer has a Windows key, then clicking on Windows + E will automatically bring out the Windows Explorer dialog box. Use this to navigate or find the location of your saved defragmentation file.
• Right click on the saved file. A drop down list will appear and you have to click on Install to start the file download. Your defragmentation file is now successfully included in the shortcut menu.
• To use this program, simply click on any file/s that you wish to defragment then select Defrag from the drop down list. You will notice that the process only takes a few moments to complete.
• The command line window automatically disappears once the defragmentation has already been completed.

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How To Back Up Your Hard Drive

This will ensure that you can recover your operating system and the applications that you have installed, rather than go through the process of reinstalling all your programs after reformatting your hard drive. Below are some tips on how to back up a hard drive.

• If your computer is running on a Windows XP, the installation package comes with a Windows XP Backup. It should be installed in your computer. Locate it and open it. The wizard will take you through the process on how to make a back up of your hard drive and choose which applications you want to include as well as where you want the back up to be stored. You have to make sure that the data you are going to back up is not corrupted as this will not be of use when the need arises.
• On a Mac computer you can look for the Time Machine application. The process is very much like the back up utility found in a Windows computer. You can set up a profile for the back up copy of your hard drive. You can also specify where you want to create the back up, whether you want to store it within your system or to external data storage.
• If you have limited storage space on your computer and your partitions are allocated to your files, you can make a back up of your hard drive by using any of the external data storage devices that are available. You can use a flash drive or thumb drive, burn a copy of your hard drive on a DVD or create a bootable copy so that it will be easier to install your back up copy. A hard drive file size may be several gigabytes so make sure that you will create a back up on an external device that can store all the files that you have chosen to back up.
• Cloud storage is another way for you to back up your hard drive. This is done virtually. There are websites that offer to store your data for free but it can be limited to a few gigabytes. Some sites will ask you to pay a small amount for larger storage space. Even with some security measures in place, make sure that the data in your hard drive that you want to store in cloud storage do not contain personal information that can be accessed by hackers.
• You can also create a back up of your hard drive and store it in a server, if you have access to one. This will ensure that your back up copy is in a safe location and will be readily available if you need to restore your data.

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How To Prevent Your Computer From Running Out Of Memory

A desktop computer usually has a limited amount of physical memory accessible to the Operating System. Memory can come from different forms like physical RAM and swap file, and there are respective limits with these because of the software and hardware features of the computer. The RAM provides the stability and it can quickly process an extremely large amount of computation when working properly. Check your virtual memory settings. It’s best to follow the minimum size recommended by your OS.

• Go to Start> Control Panel
• Go to System and then click Advance Tab.
• Go to the Performance option and then click settings. This will show you the Performance Options.
• Go to the Advanced Tab. And from here, you will be able to change your virtual memory settings.
• Select the custom option and key in your new virtual memory settings. The generally reliable method is that your lowest should be the same value that is in your physical memory and your highest should be 150% of your physical memory.
• Then when you are done, click Apply. Check if it makes any change with your system performance.

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How To Permanently Delete Files From Your Computer

When you delete a program in your computer, there are still some values  that remain in the registry. Though your system can work just fine with the values still undeleted, erasing them in your PC will likely optimize your computer’s performance.

1. Manual removal. This is a method that must be done only if you have a lot of experience and knowledge when it comes to the registry. Extreme caution must be practiced because a simple mistake can make your whole computer system dysfunctional. Here's what you need to do:

• Open Registry Editor. From the Start Menu> Run and then type "regedit" so the Registry Editor will open. Go to the Edit and Find menu.
• Search the program's registry value. Type the name of the program that is subject for deletion. Click find and wait for the Registry Editor to display all the entries that are connected to the program you are deleting.
• Delete the entry. Click an entry displayed in the screen. Right click the entry and choose delete. This step will erase the particular value from the system registry. To find another entry related to the program, press F3. Delete each entry until there are no more instances of the deleted program in the registry.

2. Automatic removal. This is a safer way to erase files in the registry because every action is limited within the safe limits of registry cleaning. Follow these steps for a successful automatic deletion of registry values:

• Find a registry cleaner. This refers to the software that functions to automatically delete registry values for you. Find a reliable and efficient one to guarantee success in the process of deletion. Take note that there are paid and free software for you to choose from.
• Download the program. Upon choosing the best registry cleaner available for you, download it in your computer. Then, follow the instructions in the software to install it right away.
• Scan the registry. After scanning, the software will display all the unnecessary entries in the registry.
• Back up the registry. It is important that you back up the registry before deleting some files to make sure that even when something goes wrong, you can be able to fix things back again. The software will usually ask you to back up the files first before you will be allowed to proceed on the deleting process. Follow instructions for backing up the registry.
• Delete the registry value. At this point, it will be safe for you to already clean the registry of the unnecessary values. Check the instructions on the software for a successful finish.

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How To Write a Review

A review is a critical evaluation of something, it can be an object, an event, or a phenomenon.

Writing reviews regardless of whether it is positive or negative - as long as it is honest, unbiased, relevant and substantiated, makes an argument. To help you write an authentic and honest review, ensure that your finished document has all the elements necessary to make it a strong, well-spoken and exemplary commentary.

When you write a review, you should:

Be Opinionated. You should clearly state your opinion of the subject in question. Remember that you aren't writing your review to make friends nor impress anyone, your mission is to fairly inform the public of your views, may it be positive or negative.

Be or feel like an expert. Nobody expects you to be the intellectual equal of the work's creator, but your careful observations can make reasoned judgments. Remember that a review is merely a commentary and not a summary.

Be Detailed. When you give praise and criticism, make sure you explain why. Provide concrete evidence of your assertions. You wouldn't want your audience to wonder why you gave such a comment, surely you would want them to understand exactly why you had the reaction you did to the subject you reviewed.

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How To Connect Twitter With Your Facebook Account

Save heaps of time and avoid the hassle of logging into Facebook and Twitter at the same time to update your status. You don't have to duplicate your effort in both places. The following steps will allow you to use Twitter freely knowing that your tweets will make their way to Facebook.

1. Log into Facebook and search for the Twitter application. Alternatively, it can be accessed directly at this link

2. And the result will be “Twitter Application”, now you must click “View Application”.

3. And “Go to Twitter application”.

4.  Then you will be asked whether you want to allow access for Twitter, click Allow.

5. Log into your Twitter account.

6. Allow twitter to update Facebook status.

That's it! Now every update you make in your Twitter will be displayed in your Facebook account automatically.

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Men Being Polygamous- By Nature or By Choice?

A very sensitive and perhaps controversial question. It would be unfair to quote that all men are polygamous, so lets just say that majority of them are. That's not to say that there aren't polygamous women, we are just wired differently. Now the next question would be- is it by choice or by nature?

It's indeed difficult to prove from a biological point of view that men are. From a scientific perspective, it benefits men by having a lot of offspring. The human race just like all other beings needs to procreate to ensure survival of its species. The more offspring they have, the more they are able to spread their seeds and their genes live on. By staying with just one mate, they won't be able to spread their seeds since they have to wait 9 months until they can have more babies.

However, I would argue that men to a certain extent are born to be polygamous. Some men only use this guise in order to cheat on their women which is downright unfair. With this in mind, I would say that most of them are polygamous by choice.  Most men want what they can't have. And once they have it, they want more.  Could it be that men have this irrational need to always be in control even though they never will be?  I would agree that the male biological imperative is a bit different from the female and that would lead to men being more likely to engage in sex whenever the opportunity arises. 

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Thin Line Between Love and Lust

There is indeed a very thin line between love and lust, people can barely tell the difference between the two. Both maybe of the same sensations, but love goes far deeper than lust does. Nonetheless, one can lead to the other. So while there's no clear way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are some ways to make the distinction between love and lust clearer for yourself.

Love is when you want the best for the other person,  and you would do what you can to make it happen. On the other hand, lust is getting what you want out of the other person. The needs of one partner of a lustful relationship comes before the other partner. One is outwardly focused but the other is focused inwardly. Both usually involve sexual gratification, but love is making sure the other person gets it too.

Furthermore, love is putting the needs of others ahead of what we want, whereas lust is putting your wants ahead of the needs of others. Lust has often been applied specifically to sexual desires, but it is not necessarily limited to that. Whenever your desire for something overrides your concern for the needs of your partner, you are allowing lust rule you. Being in love with someone can include lustful feelings but it is so much more than just wanting to have sex.

To sum it up, a loving relationship is one based on selflessness and consideration while a lustful relationship is based on desire and selfishness.

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Broccoli Beef

Ingredients:

3/4 pound flank or sirloin, sliced thinly across the grain

3/4 pound broccoli florets

2 tablespoons high-heat cooking oil

2 cloves garlic, very finely minced

1 teaspoon cornstarch, dissolved in 1 tablespoon water

For the beef marinade

• 1 teaspoon soy sauce
• 1 teaspoon Chinese rice wine
• 1/2 teaspoon cornstarch
• 1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

For the sauce

• 2 tablespoons oyster sauce
• 1 teaspoon Chinese rice wine
• 1 tablespoon soy sauce
• 1/4 cup chicken broth

Directions:


1. Marinate the beef: Stir together the beef marinade ingredients in a medium bowl. Add the beef slices and stir until coated. Let stand for 10 minutes
2. Prepare the sauce: Stir together the sauce ingredients in a small bowl.
3. Blanch the broccoli: Cook the broccoli in a small pot of boiling, salted water until tender-crisp, about 2 minutes. Drain thoroughly.
4. Heat a large frying pan or wok over high heat until a bead of water sizzles and instantly evaporates upon contact. Add the cooking oil and swirl to coat. Add the beef and immediately spread the beef out all over the surface of the wok or pan in a single layer (preferably not touching). Let the beef fry undisturbed for 1 minute. Flip the beef slices over, add the garlic to the pan and fry for an additional 30 secons to 1 minute until no longer pink, pour in the sauce, add the blanched broccoli and bring to a boil. Pour in the dissolved cornstarch and cook, stirring, until the sauce boils and thickens, 30 seconds.


Source: Broccoli Beef

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Buffalo Wings

Ingredients:


Wings
2 lbs chicken wings (about 12 wings)
3 Tbsp butter, melted
4 Tbsp bottled hot pepper sauce (like Crystal or Frank's Original)
1 Tbsp paprika
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
Celery sticks (optional)


Blue cheese dip
1/2 cup sour cream
1/2 cup crumbled blue cheese
1/2 cup mayonnaise
1 Tbsp white wine vinegar or white vinegar
1 clove garlic, minced


Directions:


10 Cut off wing tips (discard or reserve for other use such as making stock). Cut wings at the joint. Put chicken wing pieces in a plastic bag. Set aside. Food safety note: when cutting raw chicken it is best to use a cutting board reserved just for cutting raw chicken. Wash thoroughly when finished. Do not let raw chicken juices come in contact with other food.
2. Create a marinade by stirring together the melted butter, hot pepper sauce, paprika, salt, cayenne pepper and black pepper. Pour all but 2 tablespoons of the marinade over the chicken pieces in the plastic bag. (Reserve marinade for coating after the pieces come out of the oven.) Seal bag and let marinate at room temperature for half an hour. When marinating is finished, drain marinade and discard bag
3. Place wing pieces on the rack of a broiler pan. Broil 4 to 5 inches from the heat for about 10 minutes on each side, until chicken is tender and no longer pink. Remove from oven and baste with reserved marinade. Serve with Blue Cheese Dip and celery sticks. Makes approximately 24 pieces


Blue Cheese Dip
Combine dip ingredients - sour cream, mayonnaise, blue cheese, vinegar, and garlic - in a blender or food processor. Blend or pulse until smooth. Cover and chill up to a week.


Source: Buffalo Wings

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Salmon Macaroni Salad

Ingredients:

• 1/2 pound (about 2 cups) macaroni pasta
• Salt
• 2 (7-ounce) cans salmon
• 1/2 cup mayonnaise (plus more to taste or for added smoothness)
• 1 teaspoon mustard
• 1 teaspoon lemon zest
• 1 Tbsp lemon juice
• 1/3 cup chopped shallots, red onions, or green onions
• 2 Tbsp chopped fresh parsley
• 1 Tbsp chopped fresh dill (or 1/2 teaspoon dried dill)
• 2 stalks celery, chopped
• Tabasco to taste Freshly ground black pepper

Directions:


1. Bring a pot of water (2 quarts) to a boil. Add 2 teaspoons salt. Add the dry macaroni pasta and cook, uncovered, in a rolling boil for about 10 minutes, or until the macaroni is al dente (slightly firm). Remove from heat, drain, rinse briefly in cold water (macaroni should be still warm after rinsing) and drain again.
2. In a large bowl mix the salmon, mayonnaise, mustard, lemon zest, and lemon juice. Mix in the shallots, parsley, dill, and celery.
3. Mix in the cooked macaroni while it is still warm. Add Tabasco and freshly ground pepper to taste. As the macaroni absorbs the mayonnaise, you may need to add some water to the salad to keep it from being dry. Adjust seasonings.


Source: Salmon Macaroni Salad

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Classic Lasagna

Ingredients:
2 tablespoons olive oil
1-1/2 cups finely chopped onions
1 cup finely chopped carrots
1 tablespoon minced garlic
1/4 teaspoon red pepper flakes
1/2 pound ground beef
1/2 pound sweet Italian sausage, casings removed
2 cans (28 oz. each)plum tomatoes
2 tablespoons tomato paste
1-1/2 teaspoons salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1 package (12 oz.) lasagna noodles
2 containers (15 oz. each)part-skim ricotta cheese
3/4 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese, divided
1/3 cup chopped fresh parsley
1 large egg
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
2 cups (8 oz.)shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese, divided


Directions:


1. Make Tomato Sauce: Heat oil in large Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Add onions and carrots; cook stirring, until tender, 8 minutes. Add garlic and red pepper; cook 30 seconds. Add beef and sausage; cook until browned, breaking up meat with spoon, 10 minutes. Stir in tomatoes, tomato paste, salt, and 1/2 teaspoon black pepper. Bring to boil. Reduce heat to rapid simmer and cook, stirring occasionally and breaking up tomatoes with spoon, until thickened, 45 minutes.


2. Meanwhile, cook lasagna noodles according to package directions. Transfer noodles to large bowl of cold water. Combine ricotta, 1/2 cup of the Parmesan, parsley, egg, and 1/2 teaspoon black pepper in medium bowl.


3. Heat oven to 400 degree F. Spread 1 cup of the Tomato Sauce in 13x9-inch baking dish. Reserve 1 cup of the Tomato Sauce for top. Drain 4 lasagna noodles on clean kitchen towel and line bottom of baking dish with noodles. Spread one third of the ricotta mixture on top, then spread with one third of the remaining Tomato Sauce. Sprinkle with 1/2 cup of the mozzarella. Repeat layering noodles, ricotta, Tomato Sauce, and mozzarella twice. Top with fourth layer of noodles, spread with reserved Tomato Sauce and sprinkle with remaining 1/4 cup Parmesan. Cover with foil. Place lasagna on baking sheet and bake 45 minutes. Remove foil; sprinkle with remaining 1/2 cup mozzarella and bake, uncovered, 10 minutes more. Let stand 15 minutes before cutting. Makes 10 servings.






Make-Ahead Tip: Assemble lasagna. Cover with plastic wrap. Refrigerate up to 24 hours. Remove from refrigerator 1 hour before baking. Remove plastic wrap; cover with foil. Bake in 400 degree F oven 1 hour and 15 minutes.

Source: Classic Lasagna

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